My book of life began 34 years ago. My childhood was rough to say the least. My family was extremely poor and even more damaging was the dysfunction. I have been sexually, emotionally, and physically abused. My mother was checked out every since I could remember.
Solutions for Change is a way to solve issues you never even knew you had. Nowhere in the name does it say that you’re going to love doing it. This program tests you emotionally, physically, and mentally. It makes you look at yourself long and hard…and we aren’t that pretty.
It asks you to accept accountability for your part in your downward spiral. The staff wants you to learn healthier ways of coping. The process tears down decaying walls then asks you to rebuild, starting with a new foundation.
We all owe ourselves and our families our best, our love, and our dedication to have a happy, healthy and stable future.
Thank you to all the staff here for your support, even during my times of insanity. Thank you Solutions for opening my eyes to see and my heart to change.
I am 51 years old. I’ve been blessed with four amazing children: Trent, Richard, Michael and Mariah.
In February 2010, my husband of 25 years Kimo and my daughter Mariah came into the Solutions program. For first time in a long time, I saw Kimo doing recovery, and the change in him was amazing.
On June 11th 2010, Kimo passed away. That day he was supposed to get the keys for the apartment he worked so hard for. That day my whole life fell apart. Kimo was my soulmate and we were planning to grow old together.
I started feeling this pain of emptiness and the only way I knew how to deal with it was to use drugs. That day I had a choice—to finish what Kimo started at Solutions, or go back on the streets where eventually I would die. I took one look at Mariah and I knew I had to go to Solutions.
From the very first day I walked in the doors, I felt all of this love and support. I knew I was in the right place. Chris and Tammy opened their arms and hearts to Mariah and me. We will always, always be thankful. I’m also thankful for the case managers who played a big part in it. Thank you for trusting me and giving me this opportunity.
Before coming to Solutions for change, I was a homeless single mother of five kids with no hope, no meaning, barely living. I was a shell of a human being. I doubted my abilities as a mother to ever be a provider for my family with a stable, safe home.
Since coming to Solutions, I have become a successful member of society. I have gained insight into myself. I am a responsible mother, functioning in all areas of my life. I am a manger at a job that I’ve had for almost two years. I have almost four years clean and sober.
I have been given many tools while here. I take things a day at a time. I admit when I am wrong and I change the behavior. I am open to suggestions, I am not saying that every day was roses and rainbows, but it’s pretty close. It’s a life I thought I was never going to have.
My family and I arrived at Solutions on August 12th. I remember April drove us to the shelter and once we were there she sat us down and went over the rules and let us go to Fresh ‘N Easy to get a few necessities, because we wouldn’t be able to go again until we filled out a store pass.
We were walking across the street, feeling relieved that I had gotten us in a safe place. I thought that my daughter Sarah, who was pregnant, must feel the same, after all we had been through. But she said, “Oh no, my God, you want me to have my baby there? You have to find us someplace else to go” and I looked at her and said, “No, we are going to give it a chance.” And give it a chance we did.
My beautiful granddaughter Sophia was born just 6 days after we arrived at the Solutions intake center. In Dec 2010, we got into apartment 114 and we were both so happy.
I remember thinking that no one was going to hire me and because it had been too long since I’d worked. One day I received a call from Goodwill, and I got the job. I just love it there.
I’m so grateful. Solutions taught me how to budget, introduced me to the 12 step program, and provided me with parenting and anger management classes. With these tools I have learned a better way to live, and have passed this on to my family.
I am very excited about my future.